Fertility Matters Canada runs a local support group. When I
first moved here I contacted them about being put on the mailing list for the monthly
support group meetings. It took 3 months for me to work up the courage to
attend a meeting. Even then I tried to make excuses not to go, and my husband
basically had to force me to go.
The meeting was pretty simple. There were 2 facilitators
that ran the meeting. One has completed her infertility journey and the other
has 1 baby from IVF, no embryos, and is deciding if she wants to go through
another round of IVF for another baby. There were 10 people there (1 man,
married to one of the women) and we just went around the table and talked about
our journey so far. Nothing special happened, but it was so great to talk to
people in real life that really understand what you are going through – how helpless
and frustrated and like a failure you feel, how much the medications suck, how
hard it is to watch everyone around you get pregnant with no trouble, the
financial aspect. My friends and family try to understand, but they haven’t
gone through infertility so they don’t really get it. The support group people
do.
